What To Do When a Friendship Is No Longer [And Counting Helps]
I wrote about friendship here and to be honest, this past week I experienced the loss of one. One that was very precious to me.
It makes it twice as hard since the lady I thought was a close friend of mine is someone I see often.
And I have no idea why. No way of making right what was wronged.
What is one to do?
My feelings (totally unreliable) tell me to keep people at arm’s length so I can ensure that it will never happen again. The problem with this philosophy is I would end up hurting someone else in the process. The Holy Spirit would be grieved.
I could ignore this lady, but Jesus said we are to pray for our enemies. (I don’t consider her an enemy, but I think you understand my point.)
But, the Holy Spirit whispers to me that I need to be kind whenever I do have contact with her. If he opens the door for communication, then I could with wisdom see if she will share with me what has caused this rift.
In addition, counting these wonderful gifts every day does help. It takes my mind off of the hurts and onto the blessing.
166. The pain from the loss of a friend which in turn drives me to arms of Jesus.
167. I will make my first installment for the editor’s fee on my book tomorrow! Yeah!!
168. God’s grace in difficult times.
169. God’s gift in a father who listens.
170. Answers to prayer.
171. A husband who doesn’t tell me to “just get over it!”
172. A son who is beginning to see the value of having a servant’s spirit.
173. Another son who told me that he loves it when he’s told that he’s a caring person.
174. Health
175. My sister’s peace in the middle of her ever-growing trial.
 |
So sorry about the loss of your friend, Jennifer, but you are certainly taking the right attitude here, the one Jesus would want you to have.
I also loved your gratitude list!
Blessings to you!
Thank you, Martha!
I need to remember that Jesus is the important factor here. Doing what he wants is the most important.
may God give you grace, patience and gentleness as you walk through this difficult situation.
blessings.
Thank you, Richelle! Your words mean a lot to me.
Oh how my heart knows this pain of loss… and the confusion of not knowing why or how or if it could have been avoided… or can be repaired! I can tell you – in the last year, I lost a friend who was precious to me… I leaned in to Him.. and learned to count that loss as a gift, and now – on this side of things, I will tell you we are friends again and finding healing in slowly moving forward! Precious priceless grace to you… you are leaning in in the right direction – and counting on!
~Karrilee~
You are such an encouragement, Karrilee! Thank you for taking the time to share your story with me. This gives me courage to just keep on going in the right direction!
God Bless You!
Losing a friend is always hard, Jennifer – and not knowing why makes it worse. But I’m sure God in His infinite wisdom even plans who are the people we need in our lives at a particular time. I love the way you’ve turned this into a reason for gratitude!